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Writer's pictureUrmil Wadhwa

People Person VS. People Pleaser!


People we deal with on a day-to-day basis are very important for our growth in each area of our lives. As per spiritualists, every person we meet and deal with brings a lesson for us to learn. Have you ever wondered how are you dealing with people in your life? Are you a people person or a people pleaser?


A "people person" and a "people pleaser" are two different personalities that relate to how individuals interact with others.



They have a natural ability to empathize, listen, and relate to people from various backgrounds and walks of life. People persons thrive in social situations, enjoy making new friends, and tend to build positive and meaningful relationships with others. They derive satisfaction from social interactions and value connection and companionship.


Because they radiate positivity and enjoy connecting with others, they often manifest fulfilling and supportive relationships. For example, a people person who practices the Law of Attraction might find themselves naturally surrounded by friends, colleagues, and acquaintances who share their positive outlook on life, leading to a reinforcing cycle of positivity and abundance in their social life.


Being a people person doesn't necessarily mean constantly trying to please others or sacrificing one's own needs; instead, it's about enjoying and thriving in social interactions.


A people person is someone who genuinely enjoys being around and interacting with other people.


People Pleaser:


A people pleaser is someone who goes to great lengths to make others happy and often prioritizes others' needs and desires above their own. They please others, often at the expense of their own needs and desires.



People pleasers tend to avoid conflict and confrontation, often agreeing with others even when they disagree, to maintain harmony and avoid disappointing or upsetting others.


They have a strong desire for approval and validation from others often to an unhealthy extent and may be driven by a fear of rejection or criticism.


While people pleasers may be well-intentioned and kind-hearted, their behavior can sometimes lead to stress, burnout, and a lack of personal boundaries. They may struggle with setting boundaries and saying "no" because they fear disappointing or upsetting others.


A people pleaser may attract people who appreciate their willingness to please, they might also attract individuals who take advantage of their desire for approval.


A people pleaser who is practicing the Law of Attraction might continually attract situations where they feel unfulfilled or overwhelmed because they prioritize others' desires at the expense of their own. Their fear of rejection or disapproval can manifest situations where they overextend themselves to meet others' needs, often neglecting their own desires and well-being.


This imbalance can lead to a misalignment with the Law of Attraction because they may unintentionally attract situations that reinforce their pattern of sacrificing their own needs.


In summary, the key difference between a people pleaser and a people person lies in their motivations and behavior. A people pleaser tends to prioritize others' happiness and may do so to their own detriment, often driven by a fear of negative reactions. A people person, on the other hand, is someone who genuinely enjoys being around people, and building connections, and may have a more balanced approach to social interactions, focusing on mutual enjoyment and understanding rather than excessive people-pleasing.


In the context of the Law of Attraction, the key idea is that the energy you emit into the world can influence what you attract into your life. Being a people pleaser might need to be balanced carefully to ensure that one attracts relationships and situations that align with their true desires and well-being, rather than reinforcing patterns of self-sacrifice and imbalance. Being a people person can align well with this principle if it involves positive and authentic connections.


Let me know in the comments what category you think you belong to: “People pleaser or People person”.
















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